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Just Say No to One Night Stands Libby Sez
"Just Say No to One Night Stands"
A discussion on one of the Backwash message boards recently gave me the idea to divulge my two cents on the issue of One Night Stands. Never being one to participate much in this sort of behavior (hey, I don't need to), I've found that One Night Stands are often more degrading than engaging in prostitution. Yes, I'm serious. Rarely have I found the experience of "hooking up" to be positive, despite how much alcohol is involved. A recent incident comes to mind...
In all honesty, I feel pressured to hook up with guys by my friends whenever we hang out, especially at bars. Usually, I'm pretty good at putting up a resistance and ignore most of the detractors or at least reject them in a subtle way as not to hurt their feelings. Many people assume I'm a lesbian because of this, but no, I get enough cheap, meaningless sex in my professional life. Sometimes a cute guy will spark my interest and I'll play the game. I'll drink a bit more alcohol, make attempts at meaningful conversation and even go home with the guy. I don't do this much, but I've done it enough times to realize that the outcome will rarely be pleasant. This is where I heed my warning- Ladies, wake up! If you think you're going to have good (or even OK) sex with some drunken dude you just met at a bar, think again.
The guy I had a ONS with recently was a friend of a friend who managed to weasel his way into a ride home from me as we were leaving a local hipster hangout at closing time. We turned out going to another bar, where ONS guy and I continued on with our conversation. I'd already been informed at this point by my friend that he had a longtime girlfriend who was really "awesome", but he seemed to have no problems cheating on her while she was out of town. He was cute, the kind that didn't have problems meeting women. A womanizer, actually, i.e. the kind of guy I usually go for. So we had some drinks, made out in the car, and proceeded to go over to his place. He hesitated at first, I gave him the option to back out, but somehow it happened. I would have settled for just hanging out, but things never happen that way. He played me his boring band's CD, which seemed to go on forever, and we both seemed to be slipping away from the effects of alcohol. We made out on the couch for awhile and before I knew it, he had his pants off, not his shirt, just his pants. I could see where this was going wasn't too happy. It was all about him. He made no effort to try to touch me, bring me any pleasure, nothing. It was all "service me so I can come and get out." He then mentioned something about it "being fun", but I explained that this wasn't my idea of fun.At this point I tried to get the message across that he was selfish to think I was going to service him without reciprocation, but he clearly didn't get it. So I cut him off. He kept shoving his dick in my face and I pushed it away telling him I was too tired. He then made the most telling comment of all "You won't fuck me, you won't suck my cock...I don't know what else you're good for." Yes, he actually said that.
His line pretty much explains what One Night Stands are all about. I could be selfish and say "I should have been getting paid for that", but the truth is, I don't even let clients treat me like that. Quite often a client will say, "what can I do for you?"or "what turns you on?"; I have never heard an ONS say either of these things. These drunken fools want to get right into the sex with even attempting to get your pussy wet or want their cock sucked so they can come in your mouth and fall asleep, leaving you high and very dry. It's no wonder they want you to leave right away because when you wake up in the morning, you'll both feel like shit. Of the several ONS I've have, almost all have turned out this way.
I have to admit I feel a bit sorry for women who make One Night Stands a way of life. As an escort, I can honestly say they are performing a service they should be paid for. I know for a fact that people who do this very seldom practice safe sex and they run a much higher risk of disease than a sex professional. The women rarely get their own sexual needs met and most likely, wake up with a hangover and a sense of degradation. Sure, if you're desperate for sex, it may help, but if the sex makes you feel worse, that is it worth it?
So Ladies (and Gentlemen), I invite you to follow Nancy Reagan's lead and Just Say No to One Night Stands! And if you're gonna do it, gosh darn, at least get compensated for it....
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