I have no idea what Gracie is up to... First, the boots, now this.
I am not exactly a poster-child for kinky sex. And this book falls into that kinky category for me. Being a 'vanilla' or one outside of this sort of sex play, I was completely shocked she asked me to read it. But since the boots thing worked so well, I decided I would give this book a try too.
"Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission" by Gloria G Brame, William D. Brame & Jon Jacobs was an eye opener. Sometimes my eyes widened in shock, sometimes in interest, and admittedly, a few times in more than a mild academic sort of interest...
To cut to the chase, as I have mentioned, I am a 'normal' girl. My husband & I consider positions other than the missionary, I assure you, but other than a bottle of warmed massage oil, there are little props involved. Any fantasies occur in our heads, and we don't play-act. (Maybe it is too much work for me at the end of the day, but to me, all the necessary equipment is there already... why bother to set anything up?) So I took on the challenge of reading this book as a way to educate myself, for 'understanding' not to put it into practice.
The authors do a very good job of setting the whole read up. First, they discuss the reality of sex. If we agree that sex is not just for the creation of children, then that leaves sex as a pleasure... And apparently there are many forms of pleasure out there...
Each chapter is set up with an overview, including an almost question & answer format, which for a complete novice, was really informative. Not a dull presentation of facts, but not an erotic story either. There are plenty of facts blended with examples & quotes from the over 100 folks who participated in this 'study' to make this more than a scientific approach. Each of these overviews is then followed up with specific interviews, which really give you insight into each particular person's life & attitude, and of course, sexual play.
I think the book does a good job of clearing up myths about this side of sexualtiy, and explaining the passions involved.
While I can't say this book was as good as the boots were for my sex life, I do think it has, how can I put it... "Opened me to a few ideas I may not had before." I will admit, the section on hot wax... it lit my candle a bit!
I don't know if it is a thing I am willing to try or not, but let me tell you, just imagining how it would feel puts me in the mood...
If I ever do want to try it, I guess I will have hubby read the book & see if we can't start a discussion... That might be the easiest way to inform him -- but how I will get him to read it, well, that's another issue...
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