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Single & On The Prowl If you're single then chances are, you'll go out on the pull at some stage. And no doubt you'll have some evenings when you're all dressed up and utterly gagging for it, but still end up going home alone at the end of the evening. To save you those nights of sobbing into your pillow, we've got some tips to boost your chances of success. Prepare your mind
When you're preparing for a big night out, don't think 'Is anyone going to fancy me?' Instead, think 'Is there going to be anyone there that I fancy?' This subtle change in mental outlook will help you replace desperation with confidence; if you don't pull it's because no-one there was worthy of you. That said…
Don't care too much
If you go out focussing more on getting a shag than having a good time then you'll just end up looking desperate, and desperation is the worst perfume to wear when you're out on the pull.
Instead, whenever you go out, just aim to enjoy your evening; the film, gig, night in the pub or whatever that you're having. You'll look more relaxed which, in turn, will make you seem more appealing, so you'll be more likely to attract someone.
Don't worry that you'll miss out on the person of your dreams because you're too busy having a laugh with your mates. If they're right for you, then you'll end up talking somehow. Honest. Although you can help your chances…
Don't be afraid to make the first move
If you do notice someone who takes your fancy, forget about giggling with your mates about your object of desire is and hoping they notice you. Make your interest known.
Men in particular are rubbish at spotting when a woman is after them; in a lot of cases, you could prance naked in front of them with a sign saying 'I fancy you, yes, you, that bloke in the red shirt,' and they still wouldn't realise you were interested.
Forget cheesy chat-up lines; just go for the 'make conversation about something innocent, and then move in for the kill,' approach. Or just say 'Bloody hell, you're gorgeous, want to come join me for a chat?' if you're feeling particularly brazen/drunk.
Be careful how overt you go. Saying 'Fancy a shag?' will terrify as many men as it attracts – and of the ones that do respond, a significant percentage may well see it as a 'one night only' entertainment.
Give up gracefully
If you approach someone and they're not responding, move on. Having to chase too hard is a waste of time; at best, you'll land someone who isn't all that interested in you, and what's the point in that?
If someone rejects you, just realise you're not their type. Do you fancy everyone you see? Thought not. So why should everyone that sees you fancy you? Remember, there are 11 million singles in the UK. If one person isn't interested, that still leaves 10,999,999 people who could be, so you've got pretty good odds of landing someone eventually, if you approach everyone that takes your fancy.
You'll be pleasantly surprised with the difference that a slight change in attitude will make. Just go out, enjoy having fun whoever you're with and stop being so scared of rejection. For every no you get, there's a yes around the corner.
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