The Vicious Cycle - Sex~Kitten.net

Having had the dubious privilege of reading Deadheart’s article regarding age differences in relationships, and having dipped into a few relationships where there was some age disparity myself, I have decided that the normal path of dating, marriage, children etc. may not be the ideal road for us to follow.

During the past few weeks, Deadheart and I have been discussing our views on dating, single parenting, sex or lack thereof, older men vs. younger men and even ummm toys instead of men. Obviously, because I’m her mother and want her to be innocent, and because I’m a woman... and her friend... and want her to have a good time, I’m kinda conflicted.

So maybe the whole damned system needs to be revamped. How about “serial monogamy”? Let me explain:

First, while we’re in our early teens/highschool years, we should play at sex and learn about sexuality as we always have...trial and error...safely, of course. Let the kids continue to play, and keep trying to pretend to mom that they’re not.

Then, maybe during the later college years, or when you have your first real job, you should make an attachment with a much older person (say 55 to 65); male or female, depending on your personal preference. That older person would have a lot to teach a 20 something. Patience, sexpertise, a work ethic, how to balance a checkbook. All those things that make your early independent years such a hassle. How to buy a house or rent an apartment. How to make a deal on a car. Stuff parents don’t think to tell. The younger person can keep the older up to date in music, clothes, language. And keep him or her limber and sexually active. This should be a good deal for both the elder and younger.

Come early thirties, a marriage of love with someone your own age. Someone to have children with. Someone to make a home with. Maybe even someone to go to church with if that’s your thing. Someone who has compatible values to bring to your children. You should know (from your ten or so years with your older lover) how to please your mate, how to keep things new in bed and how to compromise in other areas. At 30, you’re still young enough to enjoy kids, but old enough to not shake them when they’re still awake at six a.m. and you hafta get up at six to go to work.

Sound pretty good so far?

Then the kids go off to college, you’re bored, sex is becoming perfunctory. What better lift to your spirits and libido then your turn to educate a twenty-year old??

So what happens when you hit seventy plus? Well hell, that’s the best part. You’ve contributed your expertise to society, you’ve raised some great kids who function well, but you’re maybe slowing down a little? Well relax and enjoy. Rekindle a teenaged flame, party with that pretty white-haired lady across the street, open a new business or stay where you are. Go back to school. You won’t have to worry about your kids and grandkids. They’ll be following in your footsteps and having a great time with their older lovers or their parenting-time mate.

So there ya have it. Serial monogamy ... one at a time ... May and December relationships will no longer be unusual, middle-aged women like me in their sexual prime will have twenty-year olds to play with. And those twenty-somethings will have more sex than they can handle (and will never think a clit a piece of Trident). Kids will have a stable set of parents who have a clue. Older folks will be appreciated. Hmmmmm.

Thanks to Gracie for the topic and Deadheart (my lovely daughter) for convincing me to write.