How's Tricks? - Sex~Kitten.net

When I received Tricks to Please a Woman and Tricks to Please a Man, both by Jay Wiseman, I was eager to get started. Being a woman, I couldn't decide on which one to start with, so I opened both of them. ;) They both basically have the same table of contents, and they both have the same disclaimer and warnings. Really, the only difference is, one is for men, the other is for women.

With so many sexuality guidebooks out there I was interested to see what Mr. Wiseman had to say. So I began to page through and read, Tricks to Please a Man. I picked this one first because I thought there may have been something fun and different that I could actually use. However, I was a little disappointed. I'm not saying I'm a sex pro when it comes to pleasuring my man, but much of what I read in this book, are the same things I have read in other books, or already knew. However, the author does break up the tricks with little chapters he calls, "Interludes". These were kind of cool, but there were only three of them. I wanted more. The first one was not written by the author, but rather was submitted by a trickster by the name of Andrew Conway. The author liked it so much, he wanted to include it. Basically it's a 'how to' on lap dancing. For those who don't know how to do this, or never have done it, it's a good start.

The next 'interlude' I did find interesting. It's titled, HOT SEX and on page 69, of course. *giggle* I know, it got my attention too. It went on to explain how certain substances, when applied to the skin, can intensify foreplay and lovemaking. These substances included, menthol, which is found in mouthwashes, toothpastes, mints, couch drops etc., capsicum, which is found in hot sauce, and even cinnamon oil. Also there are over the counter creams and gels that are also available. He does caution however, that serious care be taken when using these substances, maybe to even dilute them with a bit of your regular lube, as they can cause genuine agony, burns, and possibly a trip to your closest emergency room.

The third 'interlude' was titled, The Five "Shuns" of Anal Play. This too, peaked my curiosity, even though I am not an anal play type of lady. Mr. Wiseman went on to say that successful anal play can be looked at in terms of the five 'tions' (shuns)...as in Information, protection, lubrication, relaxation, and communication. He went on to explain each one, but after reading the first two, you got the idea of what the rest of them were about.

In retrospect, I found this to be a good book, for perhaps a young woman just starting to explore sex, or those who feel they they want to spice things up a bit. But for a woman who's been in a long term relationship, or married for any length of time, it's more of like, "I heard these things before." However, there is something that you 'could' get out of this book, but I'm going to make you wait until the end of this review to tell you. ;)

Now, on to the Tricks to Please a Woman. I think all men should read this, as it really gave insight to the little things that really make a difference to a woman. Such as, trick #34. 100 Strokes a Day, states, "Have you brushed her hair? Slowly? Add a seductive voice behind her as you stroke....stroke...stroke." Or trick #45, "Lightly brush the back of her neck in an down-to-up direction, against the grain." Men, I can assure you that every woman reading these 'tricks' is going.."Mm-mm..yeah.."

There was only one 'interlude' in this book, which was disappointing. It's about touring an erotic boutique. In plain words, going to the porn store. It included all the things and descriptions of things you'll find there. From vibrators to butt plugs, on to videos, and S&M gear. One thing he didn't mention, was that the 'adventure' could have be more fun if done with your partner.

Near the end of each book, the author had the same things in both books. Such as, building the perfect nightstand, resources for help with problems, selected further readings, to how to clean toys after use. I felt it was a bit redundant, but I can see why he would include it. Not all folks will buy both books.

What annoyed me was that the author seemed to gear these books toward heterosexual couples. I felt that he should have included everyone. I'm sure that gay males could and would possibly like the Tricks to Please a Man book, just as lesbians might enjoy the Tricks to Please a Woman book. I feel that these would make great books for them and any couple just starting to explore the many aspects of sex. Great bachelorette and bachelor party gifts too!

Oh yes..the one I was saving till the end of this review. While for the most part I thought these two books were good, there were some things that were just plain common sense. For those who are married or in any kind of long-term relationship, I would suggest keeping these books in your night stand. Each of you can pick a 'trick'..and during lovemaking use it, and see if your partner notices. Or write them down on small slips of paper, put them in your little bag of tricks, and have your partner pull one out, but don't let them look at it.

But the most important trick of all...HAVE FUN! Mr. Wiseman writes, "Sex is--or should be--about pleasure, intimacy, connection and warmth. If you're so hung up on technique that you're not enjoying yourself, you're missing the point. Relax, touch, open yourself to giving and receiving pleasure, and you'll be back on track in no time."