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Pussy Power Part of our culture now has adapted terms like 'grrl,' 'sistah,' and other she-bonics. It's a way for young women to assert themselves as individuals and identify as part a group of strong females.
While many have adopted that whole grrl power thing, we prefer terms which signify our mature status as women.
We do not identify as girls. We are women. In fact, most of us (if not all) dislike it when others call us 'girls.' Like 'bitch,' 'girls' is a word that only another female may use to address another female. We can call each other 'bitch,' and it's affectionate. We can call our time together 'girly,' and it's perfectly fine. But when a male calls us 'girls,' it can sound derogatory, belittling &/or patronizing. We don't like that.
With all due respect to our younger sisters, we want words that claim who we are, as women, not girls.
Words like cliterati come to mind. But while cliterati is fine for classification & description, it's not a word with power than can emote affection or endearment. The Unholy Trinity, of which I am one-third, has a lingo all it's own. We are creative women, so we often coin some of our own words. Or if not coin, then claim, certainly. One of our favorites is the word "labia."
It's a way of honoring that which is female, but it also has a familiar sound. Like 'Love Ya' or 'Later,' saying Labia seems to roll off the tongue in a pleasant manner. "Labia" is like "aloha," it can mean both "hello" & "goodbye." It's an affectionate way to tell a female friend you adore that you'll see or talk to each other again soon. It's also a way to mark the acceptance of other women into our circle of sex positive, feminist, female adoring friends.
But what about those quiet moments between friends?
When your friend has suffered some upset, shouting a giddy "labia" isn't the answer. Use of the word "labia" is much like the labia themselves -- it's an outward display. So, you need a warm, comforting term of endearment, worthy of heavy-hearted moments that illustrates the intimacy of the moment.
We women do not just allow any person into our most sacred places physically, nor do we let just anyone into our most intimate of frienship circles. We need a word to mark this special place as well... I now offer the word, "yoni," as in, "Oh, yoni, I am so sorry to hear that..."
Giving another woman a hug, a kiss on the cheek, or holding her hand as you say "oh, yoni..." is as soul affirming as it gets. Nothing is as sincere as this.
Sometimes, a nearby ear will be well-tuned enough to hear "labia" or "yoni" for what it is, and not be fooled by it's similar sounding send-offs. It can be quite delish to see the looks of puzzlement, the blushes of realization, and the gasps of shock. We much prefer when the words are actually adopted by link-minded women. We'd love to hear them clamied & used from coast to coast, from polar cap to polar cap even. But if we must remind the world that we are here, and here to stay, we are happy to do so, & do not apologize for our language. There is nothing wrong or shameful with these treasured words, nor our treasured friendships.
So instead of saying 'Love Ya' with a wave, go ahead, shout out "Labia!" Instead of calling a dear one "honey," call them "yoni" and give them the honor they deserve.
It just sounds damn right, doesn't it?
© DeeDee
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