MMMM...Brains...That's The Real Story

I’ve often ranted and raved about how my body has a very hard time in allowing me to feel the full pleasure of a sexual encounter unless my mind is also engaged. I’ve bitched about how my heart is the thing really in control of whether or not my orgasms are mind blowing and amazing or simply “get ‘er done” sorts of things. I am the first to admit that yes, indeed, the brain is the biggest sex organ of them all.

When I’m with someone whose presence itself turns me on – whose brain, heart and soul really touch mine – I find that sex has a whole different component. Being with someone who’s witty, intelligent, kind, caring, affectionate, honest, and who shares many of my interests is a great thing. Being with someone like this

Nothing.

Nada.

Not a damn thing on the planet can compete with the bliss that comes from amazing sex with one that can touch your soul.

who also shares my spiritual thoughts/beliefs is almost impossible. There just aren’t that many people out there who feel the same way I do on a spiritual level. There certainly aren’t that many people who believe and think the same things I do spiritually. The chance of finding one that I’m sexually attracted to? Pretty near to impossible. The thing is, when that happens? HOLY SHIT – it’s beyond amazing.

Sex all by itself is fun. Sex when you’re attracted to someone’s brain is great. Sex when you can connect through mutual interests and ideas is wonderful. Sex when you share ideas on such a deep level that it’s something you rarely even discuss with others? Well let’s just say that there’s really nothing better. Nothing. Nada. Not a damn thing on the planet can compete with the bliss that comes from amazing sex with one that can touch your soul.

Maybe this is something that I’m alone in feeling. Maybe it’s all a hallucination. Maybe for other people having this sort of a connection isn’t nearly as incredible as it is for me. Maybe some people don’t require any sort of mental bond to enjoy sex to its fullest extent. Perhaps some people can orgasm and be happy with just being attracted to their partner. Perhaps some people don’t require any connection at all in order to get off. Perhaps some people don’t have the need to have their brain and heart engaged before they can find themselves having really good sex with their chosen playmate. All I know is that good sex becomes great sex when you find that the person you’re with is intriguing on more than a physical level. Great sex becomes wonderful sex when you find that there are shared interests and things that are important to the both of you can be shared openly and freely. Wonderful sex becomes amazing when you find that you have the same types of thoughts/ideas about those things which REALLY matter to you on a personal level. Amazing sex becomes mind blowing and absolutely blissful when you discover that you hold the same sort of spiritual beliefs and ideas and can be open and honest with them.

When you share these sorts of things with another, the thing that makes the difference is trust. You trust them because you know they are similar to yourself. You trust them because who they are speaks to your brain and therefore your heart. You trust them because you find in them the roots of friendship that you share with the other people close to your heart. You open up enough with trust to actually allow them to reach your sex through your brain. It’s this thing – the connecting to sex through one’s brain, that makes sex with those who are “of a like mind” so very very incredible. Oh sure, technique comes into play. Experience of both sides comes into play. But what is it that really makes it amazing? That strange, ethereal connection that was forged in your brain.

There’s nothing more wonderful than a mind blowing, muscles quivering, lungs heaving, session that leaves one speechless other than to add in being so attracted to the human soul that you’re with that you feel transported to a whole other place during and after your orgasm. Yum. Give me that anytime over cheap and meaningless sex just to try to get off. Oh yeah.