Look Ma -- No Hands! - Sex~Kitten.net

There is no question about it; the biggest sex organ is definitely the brain. As I thought about that this issue I remembered an old friend of mine who has a rather interesting ability. We’ll refer to her as K. K is one of those rare individuals who can achieve orgasm without any stimulation to her sexual organs. No hands, no toys, no grinding against anyone’s leg. Just her, her partner, and her extraordinarily large sex organ working away to bring her to orgasm.

I conducted an e-mail interview with her:

How old were you the first time you experienced an orgasm without stimulation while having sex? I'm reaching back through the fogs here...probably...geesh...13 or 14 years old? Perhaps it was earlier, but that was the first time I consciously registered that it happened.

Would you say you have different classifications of orgasms? If so, describe them? I definitely have different 'classes' of orgasms. There's the quick burst that happens when I have multiples--satisfying when added up but not necessarily on their own. There's the slow, rumbling build-up to an explosion variety--the one that feels like it has made its way up from my toes, leaves me shaking (...and once blinded me for a few minutes, but that's for another time), and leaves me unable to reach orgasm again for an hour at least. Then, there is the kind that lands somewhere in between the two. It's not a shotgun, but the build-up is by no means slow. It leaves me feeling warm and like my body is almost pulsing.

What sort of orgasm is it that you have without stimulation during sex? There have been one or two times when I had one of the explosive variety, but more often than not, it is the latter of the three, warm and pulsing, that will occur without stimulation.

What do you think/know makes this happen? I sometimes think it is the most selfish act because it almost feels like the ultimate form of masturbation. By touching my partner, giving her/him pleasure in whatever manner I see fit, I, in turn, gain pleasure. Maybe it's a power-trip. Maybe it's the fact that whatever I am doing is exactly how I would want to be touched. 'Do unto others' and all that...

Which has a greater effect on you? Sound or sight? While sight has a significant impact on me, sound has a greater one. It's not the quasi-porn sounding moans that would immediately come to mind when I say that. It's in the swift intake of breath when I first touch someone...tiny, almost plaintive moans and murmurs...the sounds of desperate hands grabbing for something to hold (sheets, headboard, a body).

Do you reach orgasm (without stimulation) every time you are pleasuring someone? If not, what would you say is the average percentage? I wouldn't say every single time. I think the average would work out to about 95% of the time.

Do you usually achieve orgasm when your partner does or before? If it doesn't happen almost right before my partner reaches orgasm, then it is within a few seconds after.

Is your partner aware of when you orgasm while you're pleasuring him/her? I am by no means a vocal person when it comes to orgasms. I've found that, unless I tell someone that it happens, my partner can't tell.

Would you say you had ever initiated sex because you knew *you'd* get off even if the sex wasn't reciprocated? Definitely not. I view that as unethical.

In regards to the last question, I want to make sure my question is clear. Have you ever pleasured a woman because you knew that you could probably get her off and that you would come, since you can without being touched? If you are talking about some random encounter, a one-off, something of that nature, I haven't that I can recall. I have had one or two selfish moments within a relationship (be it of romantic or fuck-buddy status) where I went into it with the mindset of getting off, but it was not a regular thing.

Previously you stated that perhaps it was as a form of masturbation. If that is the case, how is that unethical? If the act of pleasuring someone else is solely about myself, that is unethical. It can have masturbatory overtones, but ultimately, it isn't all about me. In my opinion, fucking someone purely for the effect that it would have on me would be unethical.

Very important question here: What does "without stimulation" mean for you? Do you consider frottage (rubbing your sexual organs against someone) as "without stimulation"? To me, 'without stimulation' means exactly that. No touching, rubbing, use of Jedi mind tricks...nothing. There may be an almost uncontrollable urge to move my body, especially my pelvis, but there is no 'special moves' or actions other than what I'm doing to pleasure my partner.

After K and I had discussed all of this, I asked another friend what she thought of the mind being able to get the body off and she had this to offer:

The only experiences I’ve had that sorta fit the bill of what you’re describing involve energy therapy. My husband and I are really into it, although having the patience and interest in spicing our lovemaking with it keeps it from being a regular event.

Usually this occurs when we have already disrobed and are making-out, touching and teasing. There is a physical stimulation that does not involve sex organs; back rubs, foot rubs, a pressing of bodies without any grinding. We forge an intimate connection without getting our bits involved. I recall with clarity the instance in which, after connecting in this manner, my husband “focussed” (he visualized drawing in energy, filling himself like a battery,) and then placed his palm between my breasts and “released” the energy into me.

I went off like a rocket. And yes, it was a different type of orgasm. Instead of the clench and release or muscle pulses in cervical and clitoral orgasms, it was more of a mind-fuck. My brain comes. So instead of feeling sexual release from the specific point of my body, I come everywhere at once. (Spiritually / Tantric, this is Kundalini, the serpent uncoiling along the spinal chord. It’s a rush.)

Now, we believe in energy patterns (reflexology, chakra points,) and practiced energy manipulation anyway as a form of healing and comfort. So taking this into the bedroom wasn’t a surprise. Getting off on it like I did was a shocker, and while not every experience has been that pronounced, we both have achieved climax of one form or another in this manner. It takes control and it can be exhausting when you finally come down from it, which is why we don’t play with energy as much as we used to.

Another instance, which did not involve someone I had an intimate or emotional connection with but did involve a lot of weed, occurred when a self-proclaimed healer “opened” his heart chakra while I was rubbing his back. Granted, I was high as a kite and desperate to fuck him, which may have had more to do with my openness to him than any real connection between us. My hands buzzed electric where I touched his skin, and then the world turned to gold and I came like a river, rushing and mad, until I awoke to find myself draped over the couch with the rest of the people in the room staring at me. (This was my first experience like this. I was 19.)

My theory is that people can open themselves to each other and basically hack their partner’s pleasure centers. Like any good hack, you need a secure connection and an open exchange. You can connect emotionally and/or sensually without involving tab A and Slot/s B/C, but physical contact is required for the respective energies to flow together. Some people can connect wireless (energy-play without actually touching, vocal command, etc) but it’s much easier to warm up to it by pawing each other. – Robin Webb

It’s funny but, in the middle of writing this up I wound up having sex with an old friend. While I was focused on her and on how wonderful the whole thing was I realized that this was more intense than anything I had ever felt before. As she came, I believe I did. It happened so quickly and everything was just kind of covered in emotional overtones but I believe that was the first time I had ever experienced orgasm without touch. Pretty damn amazing, really. I hope I can get more in tune with my brain being a larger center of pleasure.