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The Golden Rules of Good Sex Sex comes in many forms; from the frisson-filled fling to the romance-imbued romp with a long-term partner. But whatever kind of sex you're having, applying certain rules can enhance it. This issue, we look at the things you can do to add zing to your sex life. #1 Only shag someone you respect – and who respects you.
While you don't always need to be in love to have fabulous sex, you should respect the person you're with. After all, if you don't respect someone, why would you care whether they're enjoying themselves or not? Mutual respect leads to infinitely better bedroom action.
#2 Only get intimate with someone you trust.
Similarly, sex without trust is empty – not to mention uninspiring. You're hardly going to be open for experimentation with someone you don't trust – or at least, if you are, you're playing a dangerous game. And not in a fun way. The last thing you want is to get tied to the bed by someone who might run away, laughing!
#3 Only get it on with people you fancy.
It may sound obvious, but there's no point shagging someone who you don't find attractive. That doesn't mean they have to be Brad Pitt or Pamela Anderson – just that they've got that glint that makes you go weak at the knees. Many people will have sex because they feel like they should, because all their friends are doing it or because they're lonely and want some affection. These are all rubbish reasons to shag. Indeed, the only reason to have sex with someone is because you – and they – both want to.
#4 Be honest.
If you're only after a fling, let your lover know beforehand, so that they can decide whether that suits them too. It's not fair to lead someone on – and it's also a great way to end up with a bunny boiler. Similarly, if you think it's a big loved-up thing, make sure your partner feels the same way. You don't want to end up heartbroken, and it's usually far worse being rejected after you've had sex than before you've got intimate.
#5 Say what you want.
Lots of people are shy in the bedroom, but if you know someone well enough to get naked with them, then you should know them well enough to be able to say what you do or don't want. Don't suffer in silence if they're doing something wrong – move their hand to somewhere more pleasing or ask them to go gently. You'll both enjoy yourselves a lot more.
#6 Don't fake it.
It doesn't serve any useful purpose: sure, it can boost a man's ego but it also suggests that you like whatever it s he's doing. This can lead to an awkward cycle where he keeps doing something that doesn't get you off and you keep faking it. And that's no fun for either of you.
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