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A Shaved Man Many men shave every day, their faces that is, but how many hetero, non-metro sexual men shave their private parts? My husband recently had a vasectomy, they recommended that he shave before the surgery. He decided that it was better for him to get used to be shaved ahead of time instead of waiting until the day before to shave then dealing with being in pain, having stitches and itching from hair growing back in. He said his previous attempt at shaving years before when he was a male stripper had not been a pleasant experience and the itching had drove him insane. So about three weeks before the surgery he shaved. At first he just shaved the scrotum but the rest of the hair was poking and itching the newly bare and sensitive area. So he shaved it all off. It was an odd sight, it reminded me of a plucked turkey. I still haven’t gotten used to it. You have to understand, my husband is Italian therefore a very hairy man, usually. He is also a manly man, one of those rough around the edges types, very rough. Not a hint of metro sexual primping anywhere. I am sure when he was younger he may have been a little softer and smoother as most young men of the late 80’s and early 90’s were, especially in Florida where he is from; long hair, gold chains, bright colors and eek spandex. These days though he is 100% burly, Italian, redneck (I know strange combination). The fact that I am defending his manliness may have you wondering what my problem is at this point. Well, my manly man of a husband has decided he absolutely loves the newfound sensations he has from being shaved. After my suggestion that he use a lot of lotion after shaving to keep the itching at bay, he found out that being smooth can be a very pleasurable thing. The lotion stopped the itching so he had the chance to discover a whole new world of sensations he had never experienced before. I have to admit the feel of him smooth is a wonderful thing. I can feel him now without digging through hair. I can actually feel the texture of his balls, anyway I am getting carried away all that information can be saved for a later date. My problem is what I know to be an utterly ridiculous thing on one level, but the fact that it keeps gnawing at me has me going crazy. Gender and sexuality, touchy topics to many people. Defining gender roles, why is there a need to define gender roles, why do we have to attribute certain characteristics to gender and sexuality? I guess it is the obsessive compulsive part of my nature that likes to wrap everything in neat little packages, nicely labeled so items are easy to locate and organize. People are not so easily stuck into neat little categories and boxes, I know that, but doesn’t make my subconscious stop trying to do it though. I know I am rambling again and should just get to the point. The fact that my dear husband has decided he would like to stay bare makes me feel a little weird, like maybe he isn’t as manly as I thought. Does the fact that he wants to feel pleasure in new ways make him less heterosexual ? No. Does it make him less of a man? No. Does it make him less of a rough around the edges type of guy? No, well maybe a little. Why does this have me feeling weird about him? Why is him being bare making me feel exposed? It has me questioning gender roles and sexuality, and sexual roles. I guess I’m attributing being bare in the genital area to being a female thing, not a male thing. How many hetero guys that are not porn stars or male strippers keep that area bare? Maybe it just has me seeing him in a new light and that has me all bent out of shape because this is something I never expected from him. When someone you think you know better than anyone in the world does something totally unexpected it can throw you off a little and make you wonder how well you really know them. And that has my whole world turned upside down. I think I should just get over it. The fact that he hasn’t changed anything else about himself except the fact that he is minus some hair should make me quit worrying. Plus the fact that he doesn’t feel there is anything wrong with it or unmanly about it suggests that I may just be obsessing about nothing. When it is all said and done he’s still the guy that is going to bury his big truck in the mud and bury his big dick in me. I should just enjoy his bareness and treat it like it is, a new experience to be enjoyed, a new pleasure to indulge it. Who knows it might just be a passing phase and I should just enjoy it while I can. I think I have figured out that pleasure has no gender and sexuality and sexual orientation are not defined by hair (or the lack of).
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