The Henyard in Action - Sex~Kitten.net

Sometimes I'm ashamed to be a woman. The day job is 90% female. There are times I actually feel sorry for the men working with us.

Maria is an unhappy person. And she wants everyone around her to also be unhappy. She is one of those people who throws cold water on any joyful situation. Another co-worker recently received a promotion. All Maria could say was, "Just wait until you get all the work piled on your desk and you won't be so happy." Maria is also narcissistic. Everything is about her. Whenever it appears that one of the unlucky men is paying any kind of attention to another woman, Maria starts making snide remarks about the woman's personality, about her morals, about her physical appearance, about her life (which she knows nothing about) away from the day job.

Kayla has the responsibility of training new people. New people don't stay long. The job is complicated and it takes some time to get up to speed...at least 6 months. According to Kayla no one does anything right. She expects the newbies to automatically know what those of us who have been around for a couple of years know. And she is not nice about telling them what they do wrong. And everything she says to the newbies lets them know that what they do is wrong. No one can do everything wrong. She never lets them know what they are doing right. There are two ways to teach...one is to point everything wrong and the other is to show how to do it right. Kayla simply doesn't have the "time" to show how to do it right. She even schedules times for the newbies to ask questions. Questions don't come on schedule. And, needless to say, many of the newbies finally give up and say, "I don't need this grief."

Candace doesn't like it when anyone get recognition other that her. She needs constant reinforcement she is a "good" person. When others are recognized for successes on the job, Candace's rumor mongering swings into high gear. When someone recently got the promotion Candace wanted, she started rumors that this other person was "fired from the last job." I know that Candace takes short cuts. I have had to do some of her work from time to time. Her comments about me are that I am "slow" and "simply can't cut the mustard." She puts down everyone in the group. And she wonders why no one will talk about anything of importance to her?

What I really don't like is that, sooner or later, all the negativism descends to personal attacks. And the attacks are no on the professional level. An inability to do the job could be understood. They are personal. Snide remarks about their appearance ("How do you expect anyone so fat to be anything but slow"), their sex lives ("Her boyfriend ought to take her out behind the shed and fuck her until her eyes cross"), their parenting skills ("Well, she sleeps with anyone, what do you expect of her daughter?"), their mental abilities ("She is so stupid she makes blond jokes look inspiring") start popping up.

Me? I sit back in my corner and try to sooth hurt feelings. I watch. I observe. I record. And I am disgusted at the actions of fellow females.

I have worked with both men and women. I have never seen men descend to the levels of sniping and rumoring. Oh, yes, they compete. And the competition can get intense. But this is one of those situations where I want to know, "Why can't a woman be more like a man?"