So Very Shallow (Part One)

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Over at Amber Rhea's I was reading about Susie Bright's reaction (as published at Salon ) to Sex And The City. I'll admit, I've never seen the show & have no desire to see the movie, but...

This quote in particular struck me as it's precisely the reason why I've never had any interest in watching any of it:

"I feel like the revisionist version of the sexual liberation movement is so stupid and shallow. If the original idea was about self-knowledge, and being orgasmically aware, and large and in charge, and independent, and not pathetically hung up on a manís approval, then the show is a failure.

Not only does this sum up my thoughts on the lack of appeal of the program (and film), but it hits upon the exact reason why I have so much difficulty in my dealings with 20-something feminists ~ the Third (or whatever) Wave of Feminists.

With all due respect to my young sisters ~ and I don't offer that as a glib disclaimer, I mean it! ~ I find it difficult to understand what it is that so many of them are doing and preaching.

Somewhere along the line, it seems to me that many of these sex-positive feminists have mistaken equality for acting like the (negative version) of a man. Rather than advocating for the same rights ~ and equal reactions to those liberties ~ that a man has, they take male-centric action.

For a literal example, women should have the same right to sex before marriage that a man has (with the same, "That's OK" reaction); but women need not do it just for the sake of it. The, "That's hot, I want it," mentality is so very shallow. It's one we blame men for having. Sure, his biology may stand up and demand action, but he's supposed to know better and keep his biology in his pants, at least some of the time.

But today, with shows & films like Sex and the City, we seem to be saying it's OK for a woman to be as superficial & sexually shallow as the old male model. Even commercials use such philosophies to sell merchandise, like this one for Macy's, where Mariah Carey. Martha Stewart and others ogle CK model Gabriel Aubry.

Sure, it's amusing to see a mature Stewart clumsily admire a bit of male beefcake, and I love Donald Trump playing up & on his real-life buffoon status as a collector of young female blondes (among other things), ironically uttering, "So very shallow." But his very statement proves my point: Acting like a negative male stereotype is not the equality feminism was about.

I know I'm going to hear about this, so stay tuned for Part Two.


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