Not All Lefty Man-Hating Feminists Enjoy Porn; Minds Of Conservatives Blown

sex kitten attitudeI really wish the conservatives out there, especially those who are anti-feminist, would get their facts straight; to-whit, feminists are not celebrating “infamous college campus hook-up culture” ~ and especially not at the price of bad or even mediocre sex. Most feminists are, however, sex positive.

Being sex positive does not mean being positive or absolute that everyone has sex, no matter how bad, unhealthy, or unwanted it is for the people having it (or those in their lives who are affected by it, such as a partners). No, sex positivity is about being positive about natural human sexuality and accepting it as a natural part of our lives.

That said, leave it to Katie Yoder at News Busters, a site devoted to “Exposing & Combating Liberal Media Bias” (Hey, it’s far more honest than FOX’s “Fair & Balanced”.), to expose and combat a recent post about women and porn at “lefty site” Huffington Post.

First, Yoder is dismayed that British sex toy and lingerie retailer Ann Summers would conduct a poll on the very same topic, adult online video watching, as the Pew research center had done just last month. “HuffPo couldn’t take Pew research survey numbers seriously,” Yoder writes with an exasperated tone. She finishes the sentence, in a far more snarky tone, with a because “who would believe only 8 percent of women watch online porn?”  She completely missed the point raised by HuffPo, and others, that the 8% seemed very low.

Concerned about what seemed to be a low percentage, folks wondered if it was because women are still too ashamed to talk about their porn-viewing habits (and sex lives in general; read this again) to answer honestly. That’s why the voluntary poll was taken from among Ann Summers fans and customers ~ to see if women would feel more comfortable, more accepted there, and participate more honestly in the poll. At first glance it appears they were; however, we aren’t comparing apples to apples here.

The Pew study found that 8% of women admit to watching online porn, whereas the upsetting-to-Yoder poll stated that 58% of women who watched porn with a partner said that it had a positive effect on their sex life. Those aren’t the same questions, so we cannot neatly compare the answers side-by-side. Yoder won’t split those hairs.

She doesn’t need to compare apples to apples because she has to combat liberals with her own conservative bias. Instead, she believes that the results of what she attacks as a skewed poll from sex-lovin’-lefties are still too low. “But that means only 174 out of 300 women who were actively in the market for sex toys had nice things to say about porn. Given the sample, shouldn’t that be much higher?”

Apparently Yoder doesn’t know her sex toys from her porno, so let’s spell it out for her.

While the goal of both sex toys and pornography is to create arousal and lead to orgasm, sex toys manipulate body parts while pornography manipulates minds. Some people use both; some people use one or the other; some people use none. Some people use these sexual aids alone, masturbating; some may use them with partners. Not to mention that some of the people use some of these things some of the time. And then there are the other things sold in sex shops, like blindfolds and costumes, which, while physical things, are made to manipulate minds and create fantasies, rather like porn.

You see, human sexuality can be quite complicated. Which is why sex positive folks, like feminists, are willing to discuss such things. So, Yoder and others who are confused, using a vibrator, wearing lingerie, or liking some other item from an adult shop like Summers does not necessarily mean a person likes to use porn. (And vice versa, by the way.)

Incomprehension aside, Yoder has no problems writing about female sexuality with a sneer on her face. (You almost have to wonder how she thinks she arrived in this world. Did she think she was found in a garbage dump?) She seems puzzled that 93% of the survey participants reported that they don’t consider their partner unfaithful for watching porn ~ and outraged that the Huffington Post remarks that such a philosophy is, “As it should be.” Jeeze, Yoder, are we supposed to believe that men can consider their partner to be committing adultery when they watch some rom-com or chick-flick? Movies, including pornos, are forms of entertainment; they are fantasies, not intimate interactions with other human beings. If you have a problem separating fantasy from reality, we have a name for that: Mental Illness.

Yoder’s difficulties with reality may stem from her Republican Dementia, but she won’t let that stop her. Continuing both her confusion between fantasy and reality ~ as well as her comparison of apples to oranges, Yoder tries to refute women’s admitted like of adult materials by citing completely biased studies which try to link porn consumption to acts of violence. (She showed me hers, so I’ll show her mine.) Again, fantasy is separate from reality; and if she and those like her are so worried about violence, why aren’t they clamping down on violence in the media more? They sure do worry more about a woman’s nipple being shown than they do gun violence on TV or in real life. But, honestly, why would she use such information as a counter-punch to women saying that they like porn? Her argument of oranges has no affect against apples. People like what they like, and women ~ 85% of them in the Summers’ poll ~ like watching porn as a “fantasy escape.”

Maybe Yoder’s inability to debate stems from an inability to follow and use logic; it is a science after all, and we know how those conservatives don’t like science.

Not only does Yoder struggle with logic and a basic understanding of human sexuality, she (unsurprisingly at this point) struggles with feminism too. And for this, I will directly quote Yoder:

HuffPo cited a Carnegie Mellon study that found men who looked at sexy pictures were less stressed. Whoops, looks like HuffPo decided Summers’ study needed more credibility – and resorted to men to do so! Those anti-feminists.

Why would it be anti-feminist to site studies about men? Why would a feminist be afraid to quote, credit, or otherwise talk about or to men? It makes no sense. …Oh, wait, it’s because Yoder is going to trot out that old, tired lie that “feminists hate men”.*sigh*

Let me educate you yet again. Feminists do not hate men. In fact, some feminists are men. Feminists believe in the radical notion that women are people, and that all people are equal. Feminism, a part of humanism, focuses on exploring and fighting for gender in the pursuit of equality for all people. Why would feminists want women to be equal to something they hate?

Then again, why would anyone, especially a woman, be against equality for women ~ including the right to accept and enjoy her own sexuality, with or without pornography.

All in all, Yoder is about a stones throw away from calling the non-porn-liking women “man-haters who dislike porn because there’s men in it” and those who like porn “lesbians who like lesbian porn”.

Either way, it’s a problem of men being in porn, right? So it sounds like a man’s problem, in a man’s world, and Yoder probably shouldn’t worry her pretty little head about it. …But if she ever needs to relax and release some stress, I’m available to recommend some sex toys and pornos.

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