The Evocative Power Of Erotica

Perhaps you’ve heard of the Peck and Call Girls, today’s courtesans, modern muses who provide virtual escort services via phone sex, chat, etc.? …You could call them “phone sex operators,” but they are really so much more than that; I know that as I’m lucky enough to know over half of these stunning, capricious creatures ~ known as much for their intellect as their masturbatory assistance. They, like any great sex workers, clearly know the key to arousing a man ~ from discerning gentlemen to silly cads alike ~ is via the largest, most powerful sex organ: the brain.

To wit, they recently posted a discussion about the esoteric attributes of erotica ~ with Robert, owner of Delta Of Venus. More than the old “erotica vs porn” debate, they pluck at the heart & lust strings of what makes erotica work… Tease, romance, unvarnished reality, nostalgia, connection, mystery…

Here’s a snippet from Robert:

To use maybe an unsexy term, good erotica is always putting in work, it’s gathering a momentum beyond just blood flow and pulse rate and dilated pupils. This work could be eliciting a memory for the viewer, or striking their imagination (sexual or otherwise) in just the right way, or launching a train of thought or feeling about beauty or desire or whatever. Plenty of erotica evokes contradictory emotions too – maybe arousal mixed with the unsettling or absurd, and part of the pleasure is holding those feelings together in tension.

“Arousal mixed with the unsettling or absurd”…. That lingers. I’m tempted to jump into the conversation myself; but I have written about this quite a bit before, including:

In Praise Of Vintage Porn (2012)

Why Do Modern Women Love Vintage Babes? (2004)

Articulating Thoughts On Porn (2004)

However, I will keep my eye on the Twitter conversations… You never know what will inspire a thought ~ or what other pretty pictures you’ll see!

Of The Singles Sex Survey & My Fashion Preditions

The 7th annual Singles in America survey is out. Among the top findings: 34% of singles have had sex before a first date, but Millennials are 48% more likely to have sex before a first date than all other generations of singles.

Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and chief science adviser for Match (who funds the study), says this is because Millennials are “career focused”.

“I think they are very career oriented, so sex before the first date could be a sex interview, where they want to know if they want to spend time with this person.”

You read that right; sex before the first date could be some sort of screening process in which you try out the position(s) before you can get to the first round of actual relationship interviews.

If you think this is a more cosmopolitan “milk for free” proposition that you need to wrap your head about, just accept it as causal sex or even hook-up culture.

[If you really want to delve into this, check out Lisa Wade’s American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus, available on the 15th; a Huff-Po‘s coverage here.]

At Unicorn Booty, certified sex therapist Kimberly Resnick Anderson makes this comment:

“It’s sort of a mixed message because on one hand people judge potential sexual partners based on social media posts, but then they also want them to put (their phones) down,” Anderson says. “It’s kind of a love-hate relationship.”

I’ll help you out, Anderson. It’s not a love-hate thing; it’s a matter of priorities and attention. Who the hell wants to be on a date with a person who is more interested in their phones?

Answer: No one.

Relationships require attention and care.

My favorite finding from the survey? A cracked or otherwise shabby cell phone is a similar to the ripped dungarees of earlier generations, showing a level of slovenly poverty that turns folks off. Ripped jeans were once a sign of lack of care ~ great grandma would wrinkle her nose at the notion of ripped jeans as a fashion statement. If you cared about yourself and who you were with when you wore them, you’d mend those! And so it is with today’s thoughts on mobile phones.

But now ripped jeans are considered sexy. We changed:

Ever since the acid-wash-80’s, when as a culture we abandoned physical labor and the look of hard work and a rugged sense of poverty was seen as anti-establishment, holes in your jeans have been cool.

So, I can’t help but wonder when the signs of tattered phones will be de rigueur with rebellion and giving a finger to The Man…

Prepare yourself for the ability to pay ~ and pay extra! ~ for shabby looking cellphones, so that we can all look like we’re too cool to care about the damages our rock n roll lifestyles do to our phones.

Of course, when we buy them so distressed, it will be strategic cracks and fractures that won’t affect the ability of the phone or gadget to work; they’ll just look like we don’t care. And that’s so sexy!

Oh, come on, we’re all so bougie and you know it.

Image Credits: Couple wearing ripped jeans; Wiberlux Philipp Plein Seventy Eight Metal Detail Destroyed Denim Jeans.

Fetish Art You Can Wear ~ If You Dare!

What’s better than sexy fetish art? Why wearable fetish art, of course! It’s like fun fetish fashions you can actually wear ~ and move in! Here’s some fantastically fun kinky wearable art from fetish & kink illustrator Siobhan. You can find these in her shop: TheThingsIDraw.

kneel bitch tee

femme fatale tank art by thethingsidraw

My favorite is the “Roses are red, Violets are blue. And soon the bruises on your butt will be too!” pencil skirt. Yes, the ass is on the back of the skirt too!

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kinky black pencil skirt

Flexible Laurien Wilde: Leg Warmers & High Heels

Speaking of leg warmers

The glorious 80s also gave us other videos ~ which gave directors, models, and actresses the ability to flex those fantasies explicitly… Perhaps none so well as the short-lived Laurien Wilde, also known as Lauren Wild, Kresten Boyd, Tina Ross, Tina Ronnie, Tina Ashley, Christy Boyd, Lauren Summers, and Bernadette Farrar. (She died tragically young, at the peak of her career, at the age of 20 in a car accident.)

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Celebrating The Early Days Of Spring With The Leg Warmer Fetish

Eight years ago I wrote about the nostalgia for 80s porn. While I am still searching for erotica and explicit porn featuring shaker sweaters, I am happy to report that leg warmers are alive and well ~ and not just in retro or vintage porn, but offered by today’s porn producers too.

Not everyone is a fan, even if they do understand the whole foot fetish thing. Perhaps they simply don’t understand this variation of the leg lover. Or perhaps you have to be of a certain age to have fond recollections of leg warmers… (Not that your nostalgia has to be my nostalgia.) From classy to sassy, leg warmers were everywhere ~ including porn.

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Becky Bailey vintage leg warmers so 80s

Leg warmers have always had a connection to dance & fitness ~ and the 1980s certainly gave many men the chance to masturbate to aerobic and exercise videos in the same way generations before them pleasured themselves via mom’s lingerie catalogs (and before that, just the pages in departments store catalog pages which sold undergarments).

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The fitness angle continues today, to be sure. But leg warmers have also been adopted by others as well.

There are those seeking snuggley comfort… Both the wearer and viewer enjoy the softer, sweeter, more intimate things in life…

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And then there are those with those Japanese kawaii fantasies. While “kawaii” means “lovable, cute, or adorable,” apparently the Japanese only call leg warmers “Super Loose Socks“. (Which is more than a little disappointing, even after all my time documenting the weird Japanese names for fetish things). But hosiery, by any other name, still looks (and possibly smells) as sweet by any other name, so…

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Here, the appeal is largely that of a cute schoolgirl ~ even if the point of view is a peepin’ perv.

authentic japanese loose socks aka leg warmers

But of course, leg warmers are not only part of fashion, comfort, or even simple role play ~ they can be part of extreme cosplay. Depending upon how loosely you wish to define “leg warmers,” there are steampunk variations and even limb covers for those who enjoy the whole furry thing

pawstar furry fetish cosplay leg warmers boot covers

But this whole subject ~ like many ladies’ legs! ~ can go on for days… Suffice it to say, leg warmers remain hot.

Image Credits: 1) Marianne Gravatte wearing leg warmers, circa 1982, from the pages of Playboy Playmate Collection #4 (1983 imported Japanese edition); 2) Becky Bailey, from headband to leg warmers, from big hair to pubic hair ~ so 80s it hurts; 3) the iconic & legendary Jane Fonda; 4) the super sexy to snuggle with Tasty Trixie; 5) Japanese anime girl and Asian school girl wearing leg warmers via JList; 6) Pawstar Party Furz Faux Fur Furry Leg Warmers.

Get Lucky, Save Some Green

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Draped In Golden Chains

These golden chains are sexy. Suitable for role-playing the softer side of sex slave games.

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“Person’s Sports Fitness Spats”

“Person’s Sports Fitness Spats” is Japanese, or translated Japanese, for “bike shorts.”

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And the fascination in Japan is not because the Japanese are all about those 1980s trends cycling back into fashion:

One of the more esoteric fetishes in Japan has to be for girls who wear bicycle shorts (also known as “spats”), a tight form-fitting athletic apparel that accentuates every curve. It is popular for girls in Japan to wear them under their skirts for warmth or to ward off panty gazers, but (un)fortunately “spats” have become a fetish unto their own.

You knew it had to be a fetish, right?

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Gotta love the retro 80’s neon orange ones; but there is something to be said for the flash of pink

What Goes Best With A Little Black Dress?

Adria models black heels, a pair of bangle bracelets, with her pared down classic little black dress look.

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Of course, Adria is also a fashion risk taker: She wears a white bra and no panties beneath her classic little black dress.

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Adria also believes the perfect accessories for a classic little black dress are a big old zucchini and an even bigger dildo.

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You <3 Boobs

Yes, everyone loves boobs. And now, boobs are heart-ing you back.

meagiesx heart-shapped tittoosYou likely may nave notices a stream of heart-shaped areolas on your Twitter timeline or your Tumblr dash. You might have wondered if the photos were photoshopped ~ or, if they were “real”, if the artful hearts surrounding the nipples were the result of cosmetic surgery or tattoos. The answer is they are tit-toos. More precisely, it’s a medical tattooing called micropigmentation. And it’s the same process used for restoring a more natural look after breast surgeries.

The coloration process of “tittooing” on the nipple and areola uses pigment, rather than ink. This is because tattoo ink will eventually turn blue, whereas the pigment, an inorganic iron oxide, allows for a more natural color. And there are various shades to select from. However, these pigments fade faster than inks. Which means the pigments used to color and “shape” the areola and nipple generally needs to be retouched anywhere from a year to six years. So if you opt for such body art or alterations, you likely need to plan on some up-keep.

This video shows just how the process of micropigmentation treatment goes — only in this case, the treatment is to restore color and shape to a patient’s areolae and nipples, not to make the hearts. Video from La Belle Forme, in Glasgow.

For a variation on this theme, Nibbles has a more simplistic line-drawing version of hearts on her breasts. As she explains in this short video, there are some considerations regarding tattoos on the breast ~ including what happens to the shape of the tats when the nipple gets hard.

Image Credits: Meagiesx; via.