Bad Teddy on Your Back

I’ve never been a teddy bear hugger. This one doesn’t look too easily huggable.

A lot of Halloween and dark or morbid looking things in this online shop. Some of it makes me feel sad. So much skin revealed, even bare butts. How can women become respected, powerful, or leaders looking this way. It bothers me that this is still encouraged. It’s not about modesty, but immodesty and being controlled and lead.

Found at Dolls Kill.

Of The Singles Sex Survey & My Fashion Preditions

The 7th annual Singles in America survey is out. Among the top findings: 34% of singles have had sex before a first date, but Millennials are 48% more likely to have sex before a first date than all other generations of singles.

Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and chief science adviser for Match (who funds the study), says this is because Millennials are “career focused”.

“I think they are very career oriented, so sex before the first date could be a sex interview, where they want to know if they want to spend time with this person.”

You read that right; sex before the first date could be some sort of screening process in which you try out the position(s) before you can get to the first round of actual relationship interviews.

If you think this is a more cosmopolitan “milk for free” proposition that you need to wrap your head about, just accept it as causal sex or even hook-up culture.

[If you really want to delve into this, check out Lisa Wade’s American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus, available on the 15th; a Huff-Po‘s coverage here.]

At Unicorn Booty, certified sex therapist Kimberly Resnick Anderson makes this comment:

“It’s sort of a mixed message because on one hand people judge potential sexual partners based on social media posts, but then they also want them to put (their phones) down,” Anderson says. “It’s kind of a love-hate relationship.”

I’ll help you out, Anderson. It’s not a love-hate thing; it’s a matter of priorities and attention. Who the hell wants to be on a date with a person who is more interested in their phones?

Answer: No one.

Relationships require attention and care.

My favorite finding from the survey? A cracked or otherwise shabby cell phone is a similar to the ripped dungarees of earlier generations, showing a level of slovenly poverty that turns folks off. Ripped jeans were once a sign of lack of care ~ great grandma would wrinkle her nose at the notion of ripped jeans as a fashion statement. If you cared about yourself and who you were with when you wore them, you’d mend those! And so it is with today’s thoughts on mobile phones.

But now ripped jeans are considered sexy. We changed:

Ever since the acid-wash-80’s, when as a culture we abandoned physical labor and the look of hard work and a rugged sense of poverty was seen as anti-establishment, holes in your jeans have been cool.

So, I can’t help but wonder when the signs of tattered phones will be de rigueur with rebellion and giving a finger to The Man…

Prepare yourself for the ability to pay ~ and pay extra! ~ for shabby looking cellphones, so that we can all look like we’re too cool to care about the damages our rock n roll lifestyles do to our phones.

Of course, when we buy them so distressed, it will be strategic cracks and fractures that won’t affect the ability of the phone or gadget to work; they’ll just look like we don’t care. And that’s so sexy!

Oh, come on, we’re all so bougie and you know it.

Image Credits: Couple wearing ripped jeans; Wiberlux Philipp Plein Seventy Eight Metal Detail Destroyed Denim Jeans.

Fetish Art You Can Wear ~ If You Dare!

What’s better than sexy fetish art? Why wearable fetish art, of course! It’s like fun fetish fashions you can actually wear ~ and move in! Here’s some fantastically fun kinky wearable art from fetish & kink illustrator Siobhan. You can find these in her shop: TheThingsIDraw.

kneel bitch tee

femme fatale tank art by thethingsidraw

My favorite is the “Roses are red, Violets are blue. And soon the bruises on your butt will be too!” pencil skirt. Yes, the ass is on the back of the skirt too!

bdsm pencil skirt

kinky black pencil skirt

Celebrating The Early Days Of Spring With The Leg Warmer Fetish

Eight years ago I wrote about the nostalgia for 80s porn. While I am still searching for erotica and explicit porn featuring shaker sweaters, I am happy to report that leg warmers are alive and well ~ and not just in retro or vintage porn, but offered by today’s porn producers too.

Not everyone is a fan, even if they do understand the whole foot fetish thing. Perhaps they simply don’t understand this variation of the leg lover. Or perhaps you have to be of a certain age to have fond recollections of leg warmers… (Not that your nostalgia has to be my nostalgia.) From classy to sassy, leg warmers were everywhere ~ including porn.

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Becky Bailey vintage leg warmers so 80s

Leg warmers have always had a connection to dance & fitness ~ and the 1980s certainly gave many men the chance to masturbate to aerobic and exercise videos in the same way generations before them pleasured themselves via mom’s lingerie catalogs (and before that, just the pages in departments store catalog pages which sold undergarments).

jane fonda leg warmers

The fitness angle continues today, to be sure. But leg warmers have also been adopted by others as well.

There are those seeking snuggley comfort… Both the wearer and viewer enjoy the softer, sweeter, more intimate things in life…

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And then there are those with those Japanese kawaii fantasies. While “kawaii” means “lovable, cute, or adorable,” apparently the Japanese only call leg warmers “Super Loose Socks“. (Which is more than a little disappointing, even after all my time documenting the weird Japanese names for fetish things). But hosiery, by any other name, still looks (and possibly smells) as sweet by any other name, so…

japanese anime leg warmers

Here, the appeal is largely that of a cute schoolgirl ~ even if the point of view is a peepin’ perv.

authentic japanese loose socks aka leg warmers

But of course, leg warmers are not only part of fashion, comfort, or even simple role play ~ they can be part of extreme cosplay. Depending upon how loosely you wish to define “leg warmers,” there are steampunk variations and even limb covers for those who enjoy the whole furry thing

pawstar furry fetish cosplay leg warmers boot covers

But this whole subject ~ like many ladies’ legs! ~ can go on for days… Suffice it to say, leg warmers remain hot.

Image Credits: 1) Marianne Gravatte wearing leg warmers, circa 1982, from the pages of Playboy Playmate Collection #4 (1983 imported Japanese edition); 2) Becky Bailey, from headband to leg warmers, from big hair to pubic hair ~ so 80s it hurts; 3) the iconic & legendary Jane Fonda; 4) the super sexy to snuggle with Tasty Trixie; 5) Japanese anime girl and Asian school girl wearing leg warmers via JList; 6) Pawstar Party Furz Faux Fur Furry Leg Warmers.

What Goes Best With A Little Black Dress?

Adria models black heels, a pair of bangle bracelets, with her pared down classic little black dress look.

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Of course, Adria is also a fashion risk taker: She wears a white bra and no panties beneath her classic little black dress.

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Adria also believes the perfect accessories for a classic little black dress are a big old zucchini and an even bigger dildo.

adria inserts zucchini in her cunt

adria big dildo

Ball and Chain for Halloween

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This is another couple costume which would be funnier if it were reversed gendered. I found several for lock and key also, but none were geared to the woman being the key holder. Very much short sighted on the part of costume makers.

Femdomme Friday Fashions

Via the number one phone sex Tumblr site, I found this post and then the fabulous shop called Female Supremacy, which features some fab femdom fashions ~ as well as a number of items for their submissive partners. These are a few of my favorites…

Bonus: If you’re not familiar with Zazzle, you should know that there are numerous style and color options ~ for both men & women ~ and you can customize the shirts, complete with pet & power names!

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femdom trampling tee

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get down at my feet femdomme tank top

this is femdom bdsm tee

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men_might_kick_ass_shirt

but women kick balls

i_serve_my_domme_t_shirts-for submissive males

cuckold men's tee shirt

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A Sleepover with the Girls

nightgownsetGracie posted about a sleep over with the girls. How could I resist posting my own outfit of choice for the event? I like this because it’s slippery, romantic and dramatic too. Practical with the cover up. I don’t show more skin than I want to.

What would a boy wear to a sleep over with the girls? I’d have to pick something special and just right for my boy, if he were allowed to attend. I guess we could use a good boy to serve the snacks, freeze the bras and referee the pillow fights.

I found this available at DH Gate but the original image came from a 404 link on another domain.

Dating Tips From Sex Workers, Part 2: Making A Good First Impression

Whether you’ve been cornered into that blind date your friend sent you on, have agreed to meet that guy or gal from that online dating site, or are finally going on that all-important first date with the person you’ve had your eye on forever, you’re now probably wondering about how to make a good first impression on that date…

Who better to tell you about how to make a great first impression than professional daters?

sex-worker-q-and-a-at-skAnswer: No one.

Not only does a sex worker’s livelihood depend upon making a great first impression, but they also are witness to many first impressions ~ good and bad ~ of their own. And, yes, that does mean that sex workers can reject clients who don’t pass their standards. Rejection in dating is a two-way street, paid or not.

We now continue our Sex Worker Q & A Dating Series with tips on how to make a good impression on that first date or blind date.

What helps make a good first impression?

Kaylee Pond (nerd culture and cosplay cam girl):

Dress nicely, put effort into your appearance, and be warm and genuine!

A Slip Of A Girl (a phone sex operator, specializing in lingerie fetish):

Wear appropriate clothing for the occasion. Women tend to over-dress, be “too dressy” or even too flashy, while men tend to under-dress and be too casual in their clothing. Over-dressed sends the message that you are high maintenance. Under-dressed sends the message that you just don’t care. Neither sets the right tone for a date. I’ve found the best way to avoid this is by discussing the place you’ll be on your date. For example, if you are the one suggesting the place, you can say something like, “If you don’t mind wearing a suit and tie, I love Chez Charlie.” If your date is suggesting the place and you are not familiar with it, you might ask your date about the dress code. If asking your date makes you feel uncomfortable, ask your friends, use the web to research the place, or even make a phone call to find out.

“Alice” (a sex worker with 17 years experience in erotic services and sex worker activism):

Showing up on time. Eye contact. Remembering details the other person shared with you about themselves and checking in. (For instance, if a person says, “I have to leave town on Friday, let’s meet on Wednesday,” I always ask about the upcoming trip.)

Goddess Audrey Rae (a Femdom and fetish clip girl, occasional PSO and camgirl):

Just being yourself really. I know that’s kinda overdone advice, but if you pretend to be someone you aren’t, that’s just an act you’re going to have to keep up and it’s not worth it. Dress appropriately for whatever event you’re going to, and making sure you have good hygiene helps a lot also.

Addy Finch (escort specializing in transgender/transsexual companionship):

Shower beforehand, show up on time, put your fucking phone away the entire time. Basically: be conscientious and respectful.

Angela St. Lawrence (a phone sex operator specializing in fetishes):

Cleanliness is next to Godliness.

Secondhand Rose (an escort who now works as an erotica author and virtual courtesan):

Showing up on time. Good hygiene. Proper dress. Paying attention to your date, not your cellphone, etc. In that order.

Oh, and don’t wear too much cologne or perfume. Fragrance should be something pleasant that draws you in further and then encircles in an embrace, not something that slaps another in the face and keeps folks at arm’s length. See: sillage.

Claire Keeler (an independent sex worker & award winning photographer now working on a photographic essay called Whoretography):

This will sound really simple and it has nothing to do with looks. Its all about manners, punctuality and politeness. The problem these days is common sense is not common and sometimes men forget to be gentlemen. There is no shame in having certain expectations of how you think its okay for men to behave around you.

More in the series yet to come!

So You Want To Go Topless…

Maybe you’d like to be as free as men are and let your breasts be bare. Sorry, ladies, but going topless is likely illegal where you live here in the US of A. Thanks to the TaTa Top, you can at least look as if you’re letting it all hang out. Yes, those lovely lady lumps are actually covered ~ go ahead, stare at the pic. Via. (Also on Etsy.)

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