A Review Of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons

Jack’s Blowjob Lessons by Jack Hutson, with Tanya J, boasts of being “The Worlds #1 Blowjob Guide.” No one knows what that means, exactly; or if it’s even true. The truth is, what is most known about this book is its sexist nature.

There’s that whole “submissive female serving dominant male” tone, a derogatory tone towards sex work, and the author actually bashes feminism. Such a sexism certainly temps folks to toss the baby out with the bathwater; many reviewers have.

But I also come from a marketing background. Smarmy as it is, Jack’s clearly aiming his book at insecure women, using threats to strike fear into their hearts. For Jack tells you, no matter how much you and your man may love one another, your relationship is at risk if you can’t give him good head. Your man will leave you. Or (presumably worse?) he may seek the services of a sex worker (in the book, he calls them “professionals”; on his website, he refers to them as “street hookers”). While I do wish women were more confident in themselves and their relationships than to fall for this sort of “man capturing” or “relationship saving” sort of thing ~ or just let the loser walk ~ there, sadly, is a hungry market for this. “Sex may sell” ~ but fear motivates actual purchases.

jacks blowjob lessonsThis is why I am trying to look past the sexism and other problems, and review the book’s contents to see if there’s anything worthy here… Just because Jack’s never had the pleasure of a feminist’s fantastic bj, it doesn’t mean you & your lover should miss such things.

The book focuses primarily on proper cock sucking attitude ~ including getting him to feel like a King, why “teasing is bad”, and rather role-play-esque blowjob “styles.” Also covered are Jack’s opinionated tips on positions; instructions on how to use hands, tongue, mouth, and other parts of your body to intensify his experience; dirty talk; and how to deep throat (with tips from a “former porn star” referred to as “Tanya J”).

Basically, the book outlines and walks you through the many options of the before, during, climax, and after of a providing oral sex to a man. There are some helpful tips and advice in here. However, due to the author’s whole “woman, submit to your man” thing, the tips can get lost… Honestly, the book almost reads like sex fantasy fiction for sissies, whose fantasies often seem misogynistic.

It is unfortunate that Jack makes the mistake of bashing feminists. And it is a mistake to believe we feminists can’t love cock or the humans attached to them. Just as it’s a mistake to believe feminists can’t be sexually submissive. (I am a feminist who loves cock, men, and being submissive!) Yes, there are some practical tips in the book, especially if you are trying to deliver a submissive cock-sucking performance or elicit a good face-fucking; but it’s difficult for even this submissive to read without feeling icky.

If you think you can overlook all the sexism, or are the sexually submissive sort (in general, or just wish to role play), and believe you can glean something from the tips, note the following: The book (stated as being a 160 page ebook; the PDF copy I was sent only has 154) is a pricey $47 & only available at the author’s website ~ but before I send you there, I should warning you that it has embedded video with audio that begins as the page loads. Here’s the site.

Also it is very important to mention that Jack doesn’t know jack about sexual health. So, if you are interested in this book, be wise and advised about STDs/STIs, use of condoms, sex in public places, and other related health matters.

As with all our reviews and/or sponsored posts, neither review product, payment, nor payment in kind affects the honesty of reviews or any editorial decisions.

Hot Flash Fiction Friday: Dear Disobediant Little Slut

fingerpointDear Disobediant Little Slut,

Congratulations on hacking into my email account. Yes, I have left this note for you and will expect you to read it, do the task I have set as your punishment and then write me a lengthy apology. Do not write the apology first. I want far more than insincere groveling – I can get that from any wanker online.

Your punishment will be to read and answer all of the emails in this account. This is not my personal email account so you won’t find anything from the real people in my life, like my friends and family. All of these emails come from little self serving perverts who expect me to serve them like the women in all the porn they wank off to.

Included in these emails are many requests for online sex. You will perform this for all of those who have asked. Contact them for the details of where and when. Dress yourself up for the wankers who want to see photos. Dress well, don’t try to cheat and hope they won’t want you. Be their slut, and do it well. Do not come yourself but make sure they do.

I will login to this account and check up on your progress. Make sure you get replies for a job well done from each wanker, add photos and the online text from your chats too. Each must be unique, no copy and pasting!

When you have finished this task you may write me an essay about how it feels to read, reply and serve selfish pricks like these. If I believe you actually understand I will reply. If not, you can start all over again until you can prove yourself. Or, you can go back to being one of the needy pricks and never bother me again.

Sincerely,

Me

Hot Flash Fiction Friday: The Babysitter Game

darling-crossdresser-deliaYou’re talking to the babysitter, again. She’s half your age and she giggles at everything you say. She blushes as if she’s been doing something she shouldn’t have done.

Silly girl. She gets flustered by your attention. She flips her hair and stands just a bit sideways so you notice her boobs.

You call the taxi for her so she can get safely home to her parents and her homework.

Once she’s gone I close the front door, turn around and…

Now you’re wearing the pretty babysitter dress with matching panties. You like to show them off and we play the babysitter game again.

Image Credits: DeliaCD.

Understanding (Some) Male Rape Fantasies

Continuing our conversation about rape fantasies

When I asked Miss Pearl to write about male rape fantasies, she did a great job with A General Introduction To Rape Fantasies, particularly when it comes to male rape fantasies. However, one facet not discussed was the specific rape fantasies of sissies. In fact, this sort of forced feminization was what I had tucked away in the back of my mind when I wrote, “Humiliation of the male submissive can be just as much a part of the D/s turn-on as rape fantasies are for some women.”

I myself first discovered sissy fantasies and male rape fantasies when I was an escort, and it was a tricky thing to figure out at first. There are many misconceptions about these issues.

For those who are not familiar with what a sissy fantasy is, it’s one subset of crossdressing (which we’ve covered before here at SK in many articles) in which a straight male not only dresses up as a woman, but wants to live the role of a stereotypical sissy girl, often with a femdom creating the scene.

vintage-crossdressing-femdom

This involves more than just dressing in “girlie” attire, as A Slip Of A Girl explains:

A cross-dressing man may be even further along the continuum, in what many prefer to call “the role of the sissy.” Sissies and sissy maids typically are those cross-dressing men who like to role play as if they were female, including serving women and being used by men. In this role, they desire to participate in power exchanges based on their sexual ideals of gender roles; anything from pegging to spankings and other physical punishments, from emotional punishments such as humiliation to servicing other men. This includes being used by or “whored out” as a “sissy slut” to other men.

The definition of “sissy” and the fantasy acts themselves vary wildly based on the individual’s stereotypes of what it means to be female, their ideas of submission, and just about any other sexual interests, fetishes and fantasies you can think of. Clearly this is not a one-size-fits-all area of sexuality.

Along with what Slip mentioned, there’s also the forced aspect. Within the confines of BDSM’s rules of “safe, sane, and consensual” (SSC) or risk-aware consensual kink (RACK), forced feminization may involve physical restraints (bondage, manhandling, etc.), emotional or relationship control (via the D/s power dynamic), and/or mind control (hypnosis, intoxication, supernatural powers, etc.). And forced femme often includes more than just forcing a man to dress like a woman, but to be used like one as well. This includes rape and sexual servicing of men ~ which is why it is also sometimes called forced faggotry.

sissy maid femdom

As with pegging, such fantasies of being a sissy do not necessarily have anything to do with a man’s orientation or gender identity, but instead have to do with cultural stereotypes of femininity. To play with these stereotypes is to play with taboos. After all, in our patriarchal society, there’s nothing as low to a man as a woman. (Yup, that often includes gay men.) That’s why degradation and humiliation are often a large part of sissy and forced fem play.

And that’s where it can become very uncomfortable ~ especially for female partners. A Slip Of A Girl, who is a phone sex operator specializing in lingerie fetish, crossdressing elaborates in another article, The Great Cross-Dressing Divide:

Men’s ignorance to what we suffer, endure, is borne of their positions of power; intellectually we women understand that male privileges deprive men of “knowing,” just as white people cannot know what a Native American or African American has and does endure. But this can be intolerable at the personal relationship level. We often block all this because we don’t like to think about how the men we love just don’t get it, or even care to… But it takes most of us women years to find comfort in and with our own bodies, on nearly every level imaginable — and even when we find personal comfort, the cultural judgements and political control remains.

So when confronted by the confessions of a cross dresser, a sissy, etc., we hear their dreams, their presumptions, their stereotypes… The things many cross dressers seek in feminine finery strike at the heart of these painful issues, which is why so many women are so uncomfortable, consciously or not, with their partner’s desires. His fantasies of “what it’s like to be a woman” can seem almost misogynistic. Especially when they “joke” about how when they wear panties they “have the best of both worlds: the luxury of lingerie without the nasty menstruation.” Until women can honestly face what’s going on in their heads and hearts and understand it well enough to communicate it all — in as safe and accepting environment as cross dressing men want when they share their own secrets — there rather remains this dissonance, this distance, between them.

…I’ve spent a lot of time talking with hurt and confused women about this. In nearly equal numbers to cross dressing men. It’s not that women don’t want to understand and accept their partners, but they want to be heard and understood themselves. Both men and women have a lot of learning and accepting to do.

Because this can be tricky territory to navigate, many men with sissy and/or rape fantasies have difficulty finding female partners willing to share these the gender-swapping erotic fantasy play. With no outlet, these men become stressed ~ and stress is a big trigger for fetish and taboo sex play. The increased desire, coupled with what they feel is partner rejection representative of societal rejection, results in panic, distress, and self-loathing ~ but still they crave! In fact, the rejection and judgement feels an awful lot like the verbal abuse of erotic humiliation and may itself result in arousal. This cycle of desire-rejection-arousal-rejection leaves some men with what they feel is a compulsion or even an addiction. As an example, read this post by randomloser998; is he really worried about himself, or is he inviting sexual humiliation for his own thrills? It is difficult to tell. But as one commenter there points out, a good female dominant can get his problem, erm, in hand by employing cock control and orgasm denial.

If you have other questions about the sissification of straight men, or if you are a man who is looking for some sissy role play, A Slip Of A Girl can help (at NF & MPS). Don’t forget to check out her Fickle Knickers!

Image credits, in the order they appear: Female dominant dressing her crossdressing male; sissy maid serving while being used by a fuck machine.